What is Love?

Setting Right Relationships

What is Love

Just as we need money for comfort and luxury, we need good relationships for our happiness. The more we have love and compassion in relationships, the more we are happy. Love and Compassion are direct links to happiness. Now let us see what is love.

Do you feel love at all times? Love is an emotional energy that flows through us to give us happiness and enables us to pass on this happiness to others. Now to know whether we have love or not, we should see whether we are passing happiness to others or not. Is your wife/husband happy with you always? Are your parents and children happy with you? Do your sisters and brothers feel comfortable at all times with you? Are they happy every time? You should look at these things sincerely with integrity.

Man’s love today is very conditional. We love only those persons who love us, appreciate us or care for us. We cannot love a person who does not give any of the above things to us. This is because, we see a relationship through the human Mind that interferes in all relationships and dominates Man and his brain today. The human mind does not know to give love. It works like a calculator even in relationships. It plans and thinks: if I do this, this person will love me, appreciate me and accept me. In order to gain love, the mind does this calculation. Thus the Mind can only ask for Love. The Mind cannot give love. All of us in our relationships ask for love and mostly do not give love. That is the reason we like some people and detach ourselves from some others. There is a lot of craving for love and acceptance by others. If we are truly integral, we will accept this fact.

Sri Bhagavan, the founder of the Oneness UniverCity (a spiritual university) says there is nothing called Conditional Love. Love itself means only Unconditional Love because the nature of love is unconditional. Love does not know any calculation. It does not analyze. It just flows from the heart. In love, the heart overcomes this mind and passes divine positive energy into the brain. The brain in turn responds with the body. For example, you see a person suffering. When your heart flowers and feels for the suffering of that person, love flows and the heart sends a message to the brain, say `go and hug the person’. The brain in turn responds and makes the body hug the other person. This is how Love responds.

To better ourselves, we should see if we are working with this heart or the mind every minute. The mind should be used only as a computer for functional work to evaluate time and space. The mind should not be used in relationships. The heart should predominate. The heart will flower only when it is used more. The more the heart flowers, more love and happiness flows in life. Relationships can be set right only when the heart flowers.